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Daily Harbors of Hope: Small Rituals That Anchor Us When Depression Pulls Us Under
When you are living with depression, even small tasks can feel overwhelming. Getting out of [...]
Perfectionism, Self-Worth, and the Slow Burn of Depression
Perfectionism, Self-Worth, and the Slow Burn of Depression At first, it might look like you're [...]
Depression as a Bear in the Living Room: Making Friends with the Parts of Us We Fear
There’s a story I share with clients when depression feels too big to put [...]
Feeling Tense Around Someone? How Walking on Eggshells Points to Hidden Conversations Waiting to Happen
Most of us know the feeling. You’re around someone important to you, and suddenly everything [...]
Understanding Protest Behavior in Relationships (And Why It’s Not Just ‘Nagging’)
Have you ever felt frustrated because your partner kept bringing up the same issue over [...]
Setting Boundaries with Religious Family: Protecting Your Peace
If you’re navigating a shift in your faith and still have deeply religious family members, [...]
When Love and Politics Collide: Coping with Family Estrangement in a Divided World
We don’t choose our families, but for many of us, there is an expectation that [...]
Are You Unknowingly Dismissing Your Partner’s Emotional Bids?
Understanding the Subtle Ways We Disconnect and How to Rebuild Trust Through Small Moments Have [...]
After Leaving Religion: How Therapy Can Help Rebuild a Sense of Self, Values, and Safe Relationships
For many people, religion has shaped everything: how to be good, how to love, how [...]
Parenting After Divorce: Welcoming a Bonus Parent Without Overstepping
Parenting after a divorce can feel like learning how to walk all over again. Just [...]
It Is Okay to Grieve What You Left Behind – Leaving the Church
Have you triggered a wave of sadness after leaving your church? You might have expected [...]
Why Perfectionism Isn’t About High Standards. It’s About Emotional Safety.
Perfectionism is often misunderstood. From the outside, it can look like ambition, attention to detail, [...]
Animal Metaphors: A Playful Way to Share Feelings in Relationships
Have you ever wished your partner just knew what you were feeling without you having [...]
Is It Okay to Step Back from My Parents? A Guide to Boundaries and Healing
If you're thinking about setting firm boundaries with your parents, or even stepping away from [...]
How a Partner’s Emotional Availability Can Help (or Hinder) Relationship Growth
Have you ever felt like it’s hard to bring up something that’s bothering you in [...]
Why Sleep Hygiene Matters More Than You Think: What the Research Actually Says
We often treat sleep like an afterthought. We cram it between late-night emails and early [...]
ADHD and Stress: Why the Way You Cope Really Matters
If you live with ADHD, you probably already know that life can feel more stressful [...]
Your Body, Your Choice: Reclaiming Autonomy After Religious Control
If you grew up in a religious environment that taught you your body belonged to [...]
Conscious Uncoupling: A Kinder Way to End a Relationship
When a relationship ends, the story we’re often told is one of heartbreak, blame, and [...]
When You Feel Stuck in Survival Mode: Gentle Ways to Move Forward
Have you ever felt like you're barely getting by, like you're just surviving instead of [...]
Why Emotional Safety Is the Unsung Hero of Sexual Intimacy
When we think about sexual intimacy, many of us focus on chemistry, desire, or physical [...]
Carrying the Mental Load: What It Is and Why It Matters to Your Relationship
If your partner has ever told you they feel overwhelmed, like they’re “doing it all,” [...]
What About Dads? Understanding Fathers’ Grief After Miscarriage
When most people think of miscarriage, their thoughts understandably turn to the mother. She is [...]
Unpacking Sexual Scripts: Whose Story Are You Living?
When we think about sexuality, we often think in terms of attraction, pleasure, and relationships. [...]
Is It Me or My ADHD? Navigating Guilt and Responsibility in Relationships
Have you ever found yourself wondering, “Why does this keep happening?” or “If I didn’t [...]
Why Is Making Friends as an Adult So Hard? A Therapist’s Perspective
When you’re a kid, making friends just sort of happens. You sit next to someone [...]
Why My Therapy Is Political (and What That Really Means)
If you have spent some time on my website or read through my writing, you [...]
When Time Management Isn’t Enough: How to Care for Yourself in Deeper Ways
You’ve done your best to get organized. You’ve made lists, tried new routines, downloaded productivity [...]
Helping Children Grieve the Loss of a Pet
When a beloved pet dies, the grief that follows can be deep and tender, especially [...]
What If the Church Isn’t Safe?
What If the Church Isn’t Safe? Church is often seen as a place of peace, [...]
Creating Rituals of Connection: How Shared Moments Can Strengthen Your Bond
One of the most common things I hear from couples in therapy is, “We feel [...]
Understanding and Coping with Anticipatory Anxiety: Being Anxious About Being Anxious
Have you ever found yourself feeling anxious about feeling anxious? You might start worrying about [...]
Debunking the Myth: People with ADHD Just Need to Try Harder
If you have ADHD, you’ve probably heard it before: “You just need to try harder.” [...]
The Gifts of Imperfection
In a world that constantly pushes us toward perfection—flawless appearances, high achievements, and unshakable confidence—it’s [...]
Laziness Is a Myth: Why You Deserve Rest Without Guilt
Have you ever called yourself lazy for putting off a task? Felt guilty for needing [...]
The Pursuer-Distancer Dance in Relationships
Have you ever felt like you and your partner are caught in the same exhausting [...]
Finding Meaning and Purpose Beyond the Church
Leaving a religious community can be a deeply transformative experience. Whether you chose to step [...]
Time Blindness: Why You Struggle with Time and Potential Steps
What is Time Blindness? Ever feel like time just disappears on you? Maybe you sit [...]
The Power of Fondness and Admiration: Strengthening Your Relationship with Appreciation
Relationships are a beautiful dance of connection, love, and growth. But even the strongest partnerships [...]
Overcoming Shyness: Effective Tips to Boost Confidence and Social Anxiety Relief
Shyness can feel like an invisible wall between you and the world. It holds you [...]
ADHD & Oversharing: Why It Happens & How to Manage It
Have you ever walked away from a conversation and thought, ‘Why did I say all [...]
When Hyperfocus is Causing Problems in Your Life
When Hyperfocus is Causing Problems in Your Life: Understanding the Signs and Finding Balance Have [...]
How to Know If Your Relationship Is Emotionally Safe (or If It Isn’t)
How to Know If Your Relationship Is Emotionally Safe (or If It Isn’t) Feeling safe [...]
How Purity Culture Impacts Our Sexuality: Healing, Reclaiming, and Moving Forward
How Purity Culture Impacts Our Sexuality: Healing, Reclaiming, and Moving Forward Purity culture has shaped [...]
Using Music to Soothe Anxiety: How Sound Can Calm Your Mind
Introduction: Finding Calm Through Music Anxiety can feel overwhelming — like a constant hum of [...]
Feeling Stressed When You’re “Supposed” to Feel Happy? You’re Not Alone
Happiness is often seen as the ultimate goal — a sign that life is going [...]
The “Ehh, Might as Well” Approach to Completing Tasks with ADHD
Living with ADHD often means grappling with inconsistent motivation and the overwhelming feeling of not [...]
Healing and Finding Belonging: A Guide for Those Thinking About Leaving the Church
Deciding whether to leave the church can feel like one of the hardest choices to [...]
The SHHH Technique: A New Way to Approach Conflict in Relationships
Conflict is a natural part of any relationship. Whether it’s about chores, communication styles, or [...]
Turning Toward Love: The Power of Bids for Attention in Relationships
In the dance of relationships, small moments often hold the key to deep connection. Dr. [...]
How Progressive Muscle Relaxation Can Help Reduce Anxiety Instantly
Anxiety can feel overwhelming, like a tidal wave of thoughts and sensations that you [...]
Setting Boundaries with Parents Who Believe You Owe Them
Navigating relationships with parents can be complex, especially when they believe you owe them because [...]
Building a Strong Relationship with Love Maps
Marriage isn’t just about love—it’s about truly knowing your partner. Dr. John Gottman, one of [...]
Why Affairs Happen: Understanding Infidelity and Healing Through Therapy
Affairs are one of the most painful and complex challenges a relationship can face. The [...]
The Mental Load in Relationships: Understanding the Invisible Work That Impacts Connection
Relationships are built on love, partnership, and shared experiences. But underneath the surface of daily [...]
Empathy vs. Sympathy: Understanding the Difference and Growing Our Capacity for Connection
We’ve all been in situations where a friend, loved one, or even a stranger is [...]
Navigating Grief: Understanding William Worden’s 4 Tasks of Mourning
Grief is one of the most deeply human experiences we go through, yet it can [...]
Coping with Anxiety in Uncertain Times: Finding Strength and Support
Coping with anxiety in uncertain times can feel overwhelming. With rising anti-woke rhetoric and shifting [...]
Sexuality Brakes and Accelerators: Understanding and Embracing Your Unique Sexual Response
Sexuality is deeply personal, ever-evolving, and unique to each individual. Yet many people find themselves [...]
High-Functioning Anxiety: Signs, Symptoms, and How to Stop Overthinking Everything
On the outside, you’ve got it all together—people see you as successful, reliable, and driven. [...]
Understanding Sexual Configurations Theory: A More Flexible Way to Think About Sexuality
When we think about sexuality, we often rely on categories like “straight,” “gay,” or “bisexual.” [...]
The Link Between Anxiety and Perfectionism: How to Break Free
Do you feel like nothing you do is ever good enough? Do you constantly [...]
How to Stay Motivated with ADHD: Strategies for Success
Living with ADHD often means facing challenges with motivation. Tasks that feel urgent or [...]